Decision Fatigue Is Draining You
Just the Endless Choosing.
Last Sunday, I stood in front of the fridge for five minutes trying to decide what to make for dinner. By the time I landed on tacos, I already felt depleted.
And here’s the kicker, that was before the actual cooking, dishes, or bedtime wrangling even started.
When I told this story to a client, she laughed and said, “Yes! By 3 p.m. I’m too tired to decide what we should have for dinner, but not tired enough to skip cooking it.”
That’s decision fatigue: the slow, invisible drain of too many choices stacked on top of each other.
Why Decision Fatigue Is So Sneaky
Unlike physical fatigue, decision fatigue doesn’t announce itself. It creeps in quietly and disguises itself as procrastination or irritability.
Three reasons it hits harder than you expect:
Volume overload. The average adult makes over 35,000 decisions a day (most of them tiny). Your brain burns fuel with every single one.
Equal weight. Your nervous system doesn’t rank them. “What’s for dinner?” hits the same circuit as “Should I take that new job?”
Cumulative drag. The more decisions you make, the fewer good ones you have left in the tank. That’s why impulse buys and snap judgments spike in the evening.
Emma (our dream client) told me, “By 9 p.m., I’m making choices like a toddler.” And honestly — same.
The Cost of Constant Choosing
Decision fatigue doesn’t just make you tired. It makes you less you.
· You get shorter with your family.
· You second-guess things you normally know.
· You waste energy debating tiny things while avoiding the meaningful ones.
And here’s the quiet heartbreak:
When your brain is constantly drained by little decisions, you have no room left for the choices that actually matter, like being present with your kids, or saying yes to yourself for once.
Tired before dinner? It’s not cooking, it’s decision fatigue
The Fix: Make Fewer Decisions, Not Better Ones
The trick isn’t to make every choice perfectly. It’s to make fewer choices overall.
Pre-decide the basics.
a) Pick a “default dinner” night (pasta Wednesdays, taco Fridays).
b) Set your workout schedule once, not daily.
c) Lay out clothes the night before.
Pre-deciding saves energy before the day even starts.
Shrink the options.
Give yourself fewer paths. “Do I want tea or coffee?” is easier than staring at a whole cabinet.
Automate the routine stuff.
Grocery deliveries, bill autopay, recurring meal plans. The more you outsource, the lighter your load.
Use decision windows.
Decide only at set times — like checking messages at 10 a.m. and 4 p.m. — instead of reacting all day long.
A Story That Stuck With Me
One client created a “Monday uniform”: black pants and a soft beige sweater.
Every Monday for a month, she wore the same thing.
She laughed, “At first it felt boring. Now it feels like freedom.”
Her energy didn’t vanish on trivial choices. It was saved for conversations and projects that mattered more.
Energy isn’t lost in one big choice. It leaks out in thousands of small ones.
The Bigger Lesson
Decision fatigue isn’t a personal flaw. It’s the tax we pay for a world with too many options and too few pauses.
Emma doesn’t need more willpower. She needs fewer forks in the road. And when she learns to pre-decide and shrink the noise, she doesn’t just feel less tired, mshe feels more herself.
Proverb
“Energy isn’t lost in one big choice. It leaks out in the thousands you never notice.”
✨ Reply and tell me: What’s the smallest choice that drains you the most?
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Here’s to finding your flow,
Mia
